Do you look at positive, ‘happy’ people and wonder how they do it? Do you look at their joy, their zest for life and want some of it? Do you want to wake up in the morning and bounce out of bed, ready to face the day ahead? If the answer to any of these questions is ‘yes’ then read on and find out how we can help you flip from ‘surviving’ to ‘thriving’.
Aren’t they the same thing?
“But Wellness Crew!” we hear you cry, “aren’t thriving and surviving the same thing?”. While there’s certainly an overlap between the two, the answer is still a resounding no. If you wake up in the morning with no real emotion other than low mood or a vague terror at what the day has in store for you, you are merely surviving. You feel disconnected from everything around you, especially people.
If you wake up with a bounce in your step and excitement at what possibilities the day might bring, you’re thriving. If you’re thriving, you enjoy talking to people; you take chances and relish learning new things. You feel happy and like you can do anything.
Does it really matter?
Yes, it does! People who are merely surviving often feel disconnected from their environment and people around them. Life can feel like one constant, uphill trudge with no summit in sight. This in turn leads to them isolating themselves, which in turn leads to them feeling even more disconnected. If this becomes a consistent state of mind, then it more often than not leads to depression, and we don’t want that for anybody! For all of us to be happy, no matter who we are, life has to have meaning, and for life to have meaning, we need to make genuine connections.
How do I become a Thriver?
You may look at the strivers out there and wonder how they do it; you may think that you’ll never be able to be like that, but that’s not true. The strivers didn’t get to where they are accidentally (it’s very possible that at some point in their lives, they too struggled with feelings of loneliness or apathy). There’s something they have in bundles that all of us have; some of us just need a bit of help accessing it. The answer is energy (stay with us). When we we feel low or depressed, the energy inside us is contracted – we don’t give any energy out to attract any to us. If you start to expand that energy inside you – to reach out to others to make connections – to open yourself up to new possibilities and challenges, you will find that others are willing to send it back to you, and the world will open up.
Don’t worry, we’re not telling you to take up bungee jumping or parkour. Start simply. Maybe you could try one thing a week that puts yourself out of your comfort zone. This could be starting a conversation with somebody new, or volunteering to help a friend or family member. If you start by taking small steps, your confidence and joy in life will grow and the world will open up.